I have recently highlighted, using a personal experience as support, that awareness is a decisive factor for change to occur positively. Handling personal aspects of a change would be expressed by the following interrogation :
“Inwardly, am I aware of what this change really means and implies to me ?“
To be truly capable of answering to this question, it makes sense that the starting point is “knowing where I sit at this very moment“. There is an incalculable number of parameters that led us to where we are, that provide us with options to go ahead, that wipe out opportunities, that shape our state of mind, etc… Although these parameters can be represented and analyzed in a certain proportion, most of them cannot be controlled.
There is nevertheless one set of these parameters that can be fully handled at our level : ourself !
Too simple to be ignored, right ? But not that simple to be managed…
We are not talking here about any material aspect – especially not money and carrier – but about what’s going on in our mind and in our body.
Do I listen to my body, to my emotions, to my deep thoughts, to my intuitions ? Do I talk to my body ? Am I conversing with myself ? How do I recharge my batteries with mental energy ? Wouaw…This is not as simple or as easy that one could think. True, otherwise there would not be so many different sports, games, hobbies, spirituality and meditation paths, religions, social networks, psychologists, coaches, etc…
But there is something here that can be clearly pointed out.
Interrogation started with “inwardly, am I aware of”. Whatever the ways your take to work on, with and for yourself, all starts with self-acceptance.
And you know what, self-acceptance also fluctuates ; when you feel high or depressed, when you are hurt or in perfect shape. Do you really see yourself always the same in the mirror ? Answer is no.
The key to listen to and to work with yourself, your dynamics, your character, your dreams, your thoughts… is accepting yourself as you are, as the unique, great and wealthy person you truly are. That will turn your personal and professional living into a quest, into an adventure, into a Life.
I hear you already thinking : “but I am not, yadayadayada”. Yes you are, of course you are ! Question is through which lens are you looking at yourself : your own inner eye or the deformed telescope of others ?
What makes the difference between these two angles ? Others are poorly informed about yourself. They judge and classify you as a matter of making it simpler for them to handle your existence. Using their telescope to look at yourself is dramatically simplistic.
Now, what if others also work on themselves, and start to look at you with this complete understanding that you are as complex and as rich as they are ? That would be great, respectful, wise, wouldn’t it ?
- Make the decision to go through this regular work on yourself : to accept yourself and to listen to yourself
- Consistently assess your current level of self-acceptance : it will give you an instant image of where you are and will provide you with clues to progress while respecting yourself
- Choose your path : there is no standard mean to achieve this, simply because you are unique. There are nevertheless a lot of marked out paths that you are free to engage or to leave if it doesn’t fit to you.
- Make it for yourself. It will benefit to others.